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Moods of Motherhood

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Moods of Motherhood charts the inner journey of motherhood, giving voice to the often nebulous, unspoken tumble of emotions that motherhood evokes: tenderness, frustration, joy, grief, depression, playfulness and love. She explores the taboo subjects of maternal ambiguity, competitiveness, and the quest for perfection, offering support, acceptance, and hope to mothers everywhere. Though the story is hers, it could be yours.

Today’s post is part of the Moods of Motherhood blogging carnival to mark the launch of the second edition of my book.

Do be sure to read to the end to see all the women around the world who are joining me today, lifting the lid on motherhood… and to WIN your own copy!

 

The Ugly Duckling Becomes a Swan

I am very proud of all my books. They are my babies.

But one has been the metaphorical ugly duckling:  Moods of Motherhood. I rushed the first edition out quickly, without any fanfare. The cover was a quick job too.

I wanted to make my writings on motherhood available in one place. The rich pickings of posts from here, polished up. Articles from the many magazines I write for. Contributions to anthologies. And new pieces I hadn’t published. Even my most die-hard fans had not read ALL my pieces. Not even my mum.

I think it is the most vulnerable of all my books. And the one I feel most vulnerable about. The bits that touched mothers the most were the unspeakable bits of motherhood – of grief and depression, exhaustion and ambiguity.

And so I felt awkward selling it. I was very quiet about it, and let it sell itself. Which it did, in a little trickle. And it built up quite a devoted little following of mamas, many of them writers whose words I adore, who told me how it had touched them, told me how it had made them laugh and cry and feel held and seen and not alone.

And they kept coming and telling me how special this book was. So I have listened, and been brave… and put together a second edition. Still very vulnerable. But less raw!

It contains lots of new posts and articles to it, to bring it up to date – there are 65 new pages! It has been fully edited and polished. And has a BEAUTIFUL new (professionally designed) cover which I cannot stop stroking. I love it so much. I have book envy of my own book!!! (Thank you so much to my friends who gave me so much time and feedback as I honed the cover, it really was a joint enterprise, by women around the globe).

From the new introduction…

Mothering is the work of the heart, soul and body. And yet our culture has no interest in how it feels, to do it, the effects it has on us… just that we choose the right nappies and sleep routines, and have quiet children who say please and thank you. The inner world of a mother creates the climate within which our families, and communities, grow, and yet it is almost entirely overlooked and undervalued, until it has become so unmanageable that intervention is required.

 

The basic premise is this: mothering doesn’t matter. It’s not real work, be grateful, shut up and don’t complain. Or that if you’re not finding it all comes naturally, if it’s not all delightful, then you are a BAD mother and therefore don’t deserve to have kids. Shame ranks highly in the arsenal of weapons to keep mothers compliant and submissive. As does comparison to other successful paragons of mothering virtue. Women’s work has never been properly valued in our culture. In part because women have been second class citizens for so long. In part because women’s bodies and inner realities are not understood. And in part because it is done in private: within our bodies and our homes. We gestate our babies unseen. Rock and nurse them alone at home. Survive dinner time. Worry about finances. Try to reclaim flagging libidos. Curse stretchmarks and wobbly bits. Angst over school choices. Smart at criticisms of our parenting… in private.

 

I soon realised what an epidemic there is of under-supported, overstretched mothers out there. Working their own personal coalface every day. Women who love their children, and yet struggle with the daily mothering grind. Women who are struggling with mental health issues, often undiagnosed. Suffering from extreme sleep deprivation. Lack of support – be it financial, cultural and emotional. Women who feel very alone… and doing the hardest job in the world. And wondering if they are doing OK. Wishing they were doing better. Scared to say anything in case they are judged incompetent and incapable, and the source of their anguish – but also their deepest love – their precious children – are plucked from their less than perfect hands.

 

And so women struggle on in silence. Knowing that they, or the reality they are experiencing must be wrong… because it doesn’t match up to everything they are told about the truth of motherhood, the natural instinct that we are supposed to have which will carry us through everything, that soft-focus, unending love, joy and delight – by the authorities: the baby books, experts, public health nurses, doctors and movies.

 

This book is a celebration and acknowledgement of ALL the moods of motherhood. Not just the pretty, nice, acceptable ones. But the dark, murky, unspoken, unspeakable, confusing, ambiguous ones too. All of these and more are tangled together to make up the tapestry of our mothering days.

 

About the author

Lucy H Pearce

Lucy H. Pearce is the author of four life-changing non-fiction books for women including the #1 Amazon bestsellers: The Rainbow Way: cultivating creativity in the midst of motherhood and Moon Time: a guide to celebrating your menstrual cycle. Read more…

Buy now!

Moods of Motherhood is available to buy from your favourite online bookstores, in e-book or paperback. And, naturally, signed copies direct from my shop.

Once you’ve read it, do be sure to leave us a review on Amazon or Goodreads! Your feedback matters hugely.

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Carnival Contributors

I am so delighted to be joined today by over 40 mamas around the world in the US, UK, Ireland, Sweden, France, Poland…

Louisa Leontiades at Postmodern Woman wonders: What is a Real Mother? Is motherhood about genetics? Unconditional love? The survival of your offspring? Or maybe none of that…

Molly at Talk Birth writes about working at home in her post Moods of Motherhood: Co-Creating at Home

Lizzie Mackay from Beltane Births reflects on her personal experience of Mothering After a Traumatic Birth and offers sound practical advice for those who are struggling with PTSD and PND

Becky Jaine shares how The Joy Factor inspired her to leave the corporate world, reclaim her JOY and become a better guardian of her children’s joy

Dr Katrin Bain suggests in her post that you go with the flow of The Changing Moods of Motherhood

Henrietta at Angel Wings and Herb Tea writes about the intense joys and desperation of motherhood in her post, Sometimes my Cloak is Big Enough

Awen at Wild Magpie has been exploring how she feels about mothering her last baby and wondering, Why is motherhood making me sad?

Author Suzi Banks Baum at Laundry Line Divine writes on self care for mamas

Zoie at Touchstonez reflects how Babies are Born with Grappling Hooks

Joanna at Create Your World has learned some difficult truths… and some beautiful ones too: What my son has taught me, and how it’s not all positive

Karina Ladet remembers to be Grateful for What is

Laura at Holistic Mama shares her thoughts on how patience is a skill and not a virtue in her post Patience is learnt over time

Jaci at HappinessBackpack explores worry from a hospital bedside in her post Worry and Lumpy Hospital Beds

Kate from KatyStuff writes about the Manic Moods of Motherhood

Monika considers the metaphor in Moods of Motherhood of motherhood as a layer cake and says no one can give you a recipe for this cake. You need to figure it our in your kitchen

Nicki at Just Like Play reflects on her sons’ hair length in Mothering hair, Mothering me

Ancient Amber author for families of the earth reflects on Our Mentoring Earth Mother

Misty Tunks of Makey Mamas

 

We have a strong Irish Parenting Blogger contingent…

Amy at MamaDynamite wishes her mood of motherhood was less frustrating in Reclaiming the Positive in Parenting

Jennifer at Nif Naf Notes muses over all of the things that motherhood mean to her since she became a new mum ten months ago

Andrea from Office Mum talks about the widely varying moods of motherhood, from first seeing those blue lines on a stick, through frustration, loneliness and intense joy, then finally learning to find happiness in the everyday: Moods of Motherhood – Ebb and Flow 

Mira at Everyday Cooking with Mira reminds us that Mothers Need Nurturing Too

Sandra of A Modern Mommy’s World writes about The Things we Don’t Want to Talk About

Sinéad at Bumbles of Rice reflects on the moods she experienced on the day that her first baby was born, in her post Looking Back on the Day I Became a Mother

Aisling from Babysteps writes about how motherhood made her more empathic in The Empathy Factor

Emily at The Nest shares the occasional overwhelm of being a homeschooling, creative mother of six, and how sometimes she can’t See the Wood for the Trees

Sessa at Sessa Daily.com muses on The Moods of Motherhood

Lucy at Learner Mama shares her highs and lows of motherhood in her post The rollercoaster ride

Lisa Ryan at Four Walls Rainy Days gives a feisty rebuttal to post natal depression

Hazel Katherine Larkin over at In My Own Write has written a post called Special Deliveries about the pain of infertility and the feelings that follow successful pregnancies.

Muuka at Another Drop of Ink reflects on Being Your Own Internal Mother

Laura at Raising Elves writes about receiving nourishment within the eye of the storm that is motherhood

Una of The Now Moment reemerges from the fog of motherhood

  1. Emily
    Emily11-28-2014

    Fantastic posts, great lineup! Thank you for the invitation, and so looking forward to having the book in my hands :)

  2. Ancient Amber
    Ancient Amber11-28-2014

    Tgis is so exciting and beautiful Lucy! Thank you for the opportunity! I will have my information and post to you by this weekend sometime! I noticed a little error by my name (of and for need to be reverse)! It should read “author for families of the Earth”. Anyways, Eek! You are beautiful, creative and inspiring Lucy! Thank you for all of your hard work!

  3. Muuka
    Muuka11-30-2014

    Reading through the posts and they are all so beautiful. Loving the book as well. I must mention that my website is not one more pair of boots, but http://www.anotherdropof.ink, for my post of being your own internal mother

    • lucyhpearce
      lucyhpearce12-01-2014

      Thanks Muuka, it’s up now.

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