A Women’s Circle of Deep Compassion
What can I do?
That was my first question. A good friend approached me almost immediately she heard the news – you’re tapped into a large mother’s network in the area, what can we do?
I felt blank. Empty. In complete shock. Helpless in the face of a tragedy so large, so local, so raw. We all did.
Yesterday my blog page had 240 visitors. Writing it was scary – would people find it tasteless, me writing about such a raw subject? But it seemed to touch a chord with many. And it moved me on in my own process of grief.
I have been asking local mums who are church goers “what are the arrangements”. I attend church things in support of the local community here, at sad times, but I am not a church attendee.
But I do lead womens circles. And it is women who are needing to share their feelings of sadness, shock, and deep compassion. Both women in the local community, and those who live further afield but have connections to the area, either geographical, familial or simply soul connections.
So a plan has developed (thanks to a night of not much sleep due to a hot, cross, teething baby).
Tomorrow morning will be a Women’s Time of Deep Compassion.
At 11 am, tomorrow, Friday 19th November, I would like to invite you to add your focused awareness, love and compassion. Take a moment to remember Una, her beautiful daughters, her family and friends, and her husband, and his family and friends. Widening your circle of love and deep compassion for them all.
Please attend my house if you can and would like to (RSVP please). Or gather a circle of women together at your own. Or take a moment whilst sitting with friends having a coffee. Or at your Jamie Oliver Party (I don’t want to steal your attendees Bree!) or just by yourself. Spread the word to as many other women friends as you think would be interested.
1) Light a candle if you can
2) Take a moment to breathe deeply and mindfully
3) Sit in awareness/ prayer/meditation for a few minutes
4) Perhaps take time to make the gifts (see below) together, or share those you have made already and brought
5) On extinguishing the candles, each person sends a wish/ hope/prayer for Una, if possible speaking it aloud.
6) It is always nice to open and close a women’s circle by holding hands and closing eyes, perhaps singing together, but only if you feel comfortable doing this!
And a gift…
A friend at her motherblessing was given a beautiful handmade book, where each of us contributed a page. I would like to do a variation partly on this, and partly on a conventional communally signed card. A pack of mother-blessed, “angel”/ “inspiration” cards for her to keep with her journal, or on her mantle piece, or handbag.
If each person who wishes could make a “postcard”: 6″ x 4″ (standard photo size), just single (not a folded card). On one side might be a photograph, drawing, collage, piece of mounted sewing, a quotation, message, symbol, a word, a prayer, a poem – a gift of hope/love/peace from your heart to hers. Something to light her darkness and add a new, brighter thought or image into her days.
On the other side please put your name at least, and perhaps your contact details or where you live, so that if ever she feels herself alone in this world she can phone, text, call in, drive past your house, look at a map and know that someone out there cares and that she is not alone.
Please mail me these cards (to arrive for the end of next week – email me for address), or scan them in and email them and I will print them off and put them onto card.
I will compile the cards in a beautiful folder/ envelope and get them to her next week.
So 11 am PROMPT tomorrow, Friday 19th November. Start arriving from 10.45, we will be finished by 11.30. I am not intending for it to last more than half an hour, as I know people will have to disappear to collect children and do nap time.
I look forward to welcoming as many of you as possible to the Pink House tomorrow – please do RSVP by text/email.
Practical note: I am planning it for a Friday as then a lot of mothers have children in school or playschool. I feel it is appropriate for babies to be there. Toddlers too (if they can have a favourite toy/ book/ food to keep them quiet for a little that would be great.) I would be concerned about older children asking questions that mothers may be wanting to avoid, but they are welcome to play upstairs.